Love for ourself is not the same as arrogant, narcissistic inflated self worth.
Self love is the ability to accept ourselves as a human in progress.
When narcissists see themselves they do not see love.
They see someone unworthy of love.
And so they polish them selves in unhealthy ways so others validate them for them.
But when we practice self love, in the way a loving parent loves their child, we encourage ourselves to become better with grace.
And there is a comforting confidence in those who show up without being shackled to the need for external validation.